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For the believer in Jesus it's not just your relationship with others that's supposed to be different, it's first and foremost the relationship with your spouse or family. Often we restrain ourselves with those we don't know as well and "cut loose" on those we're most comfortable with. In this message you'll learn how to fight with those closest to you in a way that reflects your relationship with Jesus and has a much higher likelihood of reconciliation. 

When the going gets tough the tough get going... and the weak give up.

Almost every irreconcilable difference could be reconciled if we stopped focusing on our differences.

Last week Bill and Melody shared how to have an affair:

  1. Put yourself first
  2. Put your spouse in their place
  3. Put God last

But that's not how God intended marriage to be - marriage is a picture of Jesus and His unconditional love for the Church.

With marriage, as with many things in life, sticking it out is a lot easier to ASSERT than it is to ACHIEVE.

Ephesians 5:8,9,15-20

8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth)

Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The unwise life is marked by missed opportunities, foolish decisions and dangerous choices.

The lives of those who #LiveWise are marked by exciting opportunities, deeper understanding and spiritual growth.

Fights don't destroy marriages, Satan destroys marriages

Satan wants to DESTROY what God has DESIGNED:

Every opportunity you will ever have to trust God's design will come through Satan's opposition.

Our problems don't stem from a lack of information but a lack of spiritual formation.

God says that REAL LOVE gives itself up for others it doesn't demand it for itself.

There are a lot of things we FILL-UP on but they never FULFILL us.

Can you list some things that we try to fill-up on but that never fulfill us?

Stop fighting WITH your spouse and start fighting FOR your spouse.

You and your spouse are not in OPPOSITION even when you're in DISAGREEMENT

You don't look like Jesus when you leave...

 but you look exactly like Jesus when you LOVE.


Next week we're kicking off a brand new series that will set us up for our best Easter ever. Over the next three weeks we'll be seeking God as we pray together, fast together and prepare together for every person possible to come and see what Jesus is all about here at Real Life - where God is God, Jesus saves and the Spirit brings life to our dead bones.


We want you to know that you matter to God and us.

If you think you might be ready to make Real Life YOUR church home then Pizza with the Pastor is your Next Step. It's a casual conversation designed for newcomers to Real Life and you can register right HERE right now. It happens on Sundays following the morning service and you can see the schedule by clicking the link above.

Need more help taking your next step?

1) Stop by the CONNECTION HUB in the back of the big room and a volunteer will help you discover your next step!

2) Fill out the connection card and leave it on your seat when the service is over. We'll pick it up and be in touch!